pamahiin or Old wives tale is very strong in my country. Ofcourse there are also during pregnancy and after giving birth. It is very well known to anyone who came from the country to hear at least one from their older relatives or friends.
I have seen many people following some of these Filipinos pamahiin and others are very strict. Now that I am a mother too and I live in a different country I happen to encounter a lot of question about this from a first-time mom in one group.
I thought so any way to write about it and give my own point of view about it. Do you want to know what are these pamahiin? Here I will give you list from pregnancy until the baby is born.
DURING PREGNANCY FILIPINOS PAMAHIIN
Visitors in the house are not allowed to stop/stand at the door or the pregnant herself is not allowed to do the same.
It can cause some unexpected delay during the delivery. It can prolong and cause uneasiness to the delivery process.
Tagalog: Bawal tumambay sa may pinto kapag may buntis kasi daw mahirapan manganak. Pahinto hinto daw ang paglabor at di agad nailalabas ang bata.
In my opinion, it is anyway clear that there is no way the baby will know that her/his mother has been standing in the door or anyone so that the delivery will cause a delay. If there is some case that the mother has done these or their visitor, I think it’s just pure coincidence and not related to the mentioned above.
Pregnant mom is not allowed to cut her hair.
It is said to have a tendency to have a bald hair, do not remember if it is with the mom or the child.
Tagalog: Wag daw magpagupit kapag buntis kasi baka makalbo.
Well, okay, maybe this is with the mom as after giving birth mom experience a hair loss. So it can be that is the bases of this saying. It is normal to have the postpartum hair loss which normal hair growth will come back around a year after giving birth.
It is not allowed to take a picture of a pregnant woman
It is believed to be bad luck to take a picture during pregnancy. It can cause something bad to both mother and child during the pregnancy or delivery.
Tagalog: Masama magpalitrato ang buntis at kasabihan ng matatanda ay malas daw.
Well, I noticed that this is not anymore being followed by the new generation as it is so common nowadays to have the pregnancy photoshoot.
AFTER GIVING BIRTH FILIPINOS PAMAHIIN
It is not allowed to take a shower for both mom and baby after giving birth
It is said to cause illness to the mom and the baby specially if the mommy is breastfeeding.
Tagalog: Bawal maligo ang nanay at ang sanggol pagkapanganak. Maaring umabot ng linggo o ilang linggo bago makaligo ng normal. Ang unang ligo ay dapat maligamgam na tubig na may mga dahon.
If probably I gave birth in my country, I am sure this is one that might have been followed among all the
In my case, I gave birth normal delivery to all my four children. I took a shower every day after giving birth, even right after. Only one time I didn’t go to shower right after giving birth because I was then really tired and feel dizzy. The rest, I did. I was able to walk and go to the shower room and wash.
To be honest, this was one of the culture shocks for me being a first-time mom as expat before. As I knew it wasn’t allowed in my home country.
For the case of the baby, my first two kids were cleaned and bathed right after by the midwife before putting their newborn clothes. For the younger two, they didn’t do that anymore. Only wiping, as they said it is not healthy for babies skin to wash right away.
Breastfeeding moms are not allowed to drink cold beverages
It is believed that if mothers drink cold beverages, the baby can get that cold from the milk and the baby can get cold or stomach pain.
Tagalog: Kakabagin o magkakasipon ang bata kapag uminom ng malamig na inumin ang nanay na nagpapadede.
Well, this is not only in the Philippines, in fact, but it is also believed that whatever the mommy is drinking goes to the breastmilk. It is true that breastfeeding mothers need to be careful about whatever they are taking.
Alcohol is one, when breastfeeding it is advised to have moderate drinking or avoid breastfeeding in the first two hours after drinking alcohol. A little amount can go to the mothers’ milk but for cold beverages to cause cold for baby is not true.
Cold and flu are caused by a virus and in fact, breastfeeding mostly protect baby from getting flu which baby got protective antibodies from breastmilk.
Avoid breastfeeding when mother is tired or hungry
This is the same as above, the baby is believe to got sick when drinking milk from a tired and hungry mother.
Tagalog: Bawal magpadede kung pagod o gutom ang nanay at mapapasma o magkakasakit ang bata
In my point of view, this can be based on the fact that mothers should be careful taking
Instead, it is advised to eat often and different healthy varieties (more fruits and vegetables) for the breastfeeding mother. That can help to have more milk production.
PAMAHIIN FOR BABIES
There are more Filipinos pamahiin for babies than the previous ones I mentioned. I will tell you few that I remember.
It is not allowed to cut babies nails during evenings
It is not allowed to cut babies nails as it can cause bad luck.
Tagalog: Malas daw kapag pinuputulan ng kuko ang bata sa gabi at baka may mangyari daw masama.
My opinion for this? Well, babies nails are very soft and their fingers are very soft and fragile. I think, it is just a precaution not to cut the nails during evening when there is not enough lights or it is dark. Cutting babies nails too short can cause infection for them if they can get a cut from it. So that is my side for this, could be that’s the reason and not about the bad luck.
First haircut of the baby must put between books pages
It is believed to put the first haircut of the baby between the pages of the books to grow up as a smart kid. Even better if it is encyclopedia books.
Tagalog: Para tumalino ang bata, ilagay ang unang gupit ng buhok sa pagitan ng pahina ng mga libro.
Books must be read to get information, it doesn’t have any wireless connection that the hair between those books will copy all the data from the books to the hair. Then transfer it to the babies head. Okay, now I am making fun of this, but this is just not true. I do not know where this started.
Press the babies nose up to get it more pointed nose
I do not know if I even wrote it correctly in English but it is believed to avoid flattened nose by pressing it up.
Tagalog: Pisilin o himasin ang ilong para tumangos ang ilong ng bata
Seriously? This is something with our mentality when we always wants something what we do not have. Whats with our very own version of nose? If parents are both Filipino and their baby start to look like half foreigner, then that’s something stranged. Otherwise, we must be happy of our own beauty. Do not do this to your baby please, they are beautiful as they are.
Avoid facing the baby to the mirror
It is believed to avoid facing baby to the mirror because they can have speech delay.
Tagalog: Huwag ipaharap sa salamin ang bata at baka hindi makapagsalita ng maaga
I do not know where is this coming from, but with my kids, they all have been facing a mirror. When I put them to tummy time, they like looking at themselves to mirror. There are new born baby books too that have the mirror-like thing, where the baby can see some reflection. They like it actually. They laugh at themselves seeing them in the mirror.
Do not bring the baby outside during evening
It it said to be dangerous to bring the baby outside in the evening, they can catch cold.
Tagalog: Bawal ilabas sa gabi ang bata at baka mahamugan
It is advisable to bring your baby evening or not outside with the proper clothing. To avoid that baby got cold body, be ready incase it get rainy or anything to avoid baby get cold. It is nothing to do with being evening.
There is much more Filipinos
If you know one, tell me about it and comment below. Do you follow those?
I will also once in a while create